The Christmas season in America is typically a rush. Literally, the day after Thanksgiving people of all ages go to the malls to get the Black Friday deals. However, what would it be like if we just rested with our family because the isn’t that what holidays and life is all about?
Last Friday was the one year anniversary of one of my loved ones passing. Tati, was my great aunt and had a huge impact on my life. She lived out the art of “be-ing”. The definition of BE: to exist, be present, occur; take place, stay in the same place & condition, etc. It is a simple term that holds weight. Tati taught me the art of be-ing more than anyone else. From sports games to award ceremonies, dance recitals and graduations she was always there. There were even times during the week where she would watch my brother and I. Often times, she would be in the same room with us watching what we wanted, or cooking our favorite meals. Yes, there were times where she fell asleep, but she was still with us. She made a lasting impact by always being intentional in the moments. She did not say much but when she would, her words had impact and are phrases I still remember to this day. The art of be-ing is a selfless act. It turns the desires of your heart into a serving the people around you by asking questions about them, listening to their stories, being with them. It is the posture of being all there and loving those around you with all that you have. Holidays are a great time to be with family. I think we sometimes get distracted by the idea of Christmas that we forget what it is really about, spending undivided time with those who you love so dearly! My challenge to you is to no to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays that you miss out on creating memories with those who matter the most. This reminds me of a story in the Bible…. “Now as they went on their way, Jesus[a] entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching.40 But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” 41 But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, 42 but one thing is necessary.[b] Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38-42 Friends and Family, Please do not get distracted this holiday season. Be with those who you love and be fully there. There will be distractions but please do not give into them, press into the time with your loved ones. Forget about what "needs to get done" and sit and be with your family and friends. I had a couple friends over yesterday and I asked the question, “What are you hoping for this holiday season?” They said, “being with family, having quality time with siblings that live in different places.” May this holiday season bring you hope, love and new memories. May you get better at the art of be-ing and truly cherish those who are in your life. After all, the best present you can give your family this Christmas is your presence! The art of be-ing is something I am currently working on. To be present and love anyone who comes in my path. To not get caught up in how things look when I’m hosting friends, but rather keep the dishes in the sink so that I can sit with my guests and catch up with them. Tati has taught me so much on this principle and I know her legacy of how she lived, will live on in our lives.
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